How many times have you said “I should do this” or “I should do that”, and then when you don’t get to it you feel guilty, or stressed, or put pressure on yourself. Have you done something that you wished you hadn’t done or that you had done differently and you told yourself “I should have done it this way, or I should’ve done it differently”. How does that make you feel? Regretful, sad, angry, upset with yourself? It’s good to catch yourself when you say these things, and instantly just change the wording and say “I could do this or I could do that”… or even something like “I can do this better”. It feels a lot lighter and freer not carrying around that emotional baggage about it which only makes it harder to do it anyway. This actually helps to feel more positive to move ahead to make the correction, do it the right way or the way you wish you had in the first place.  If it can’t be redone, at least it helps to lift that emotional heaviness off of your feelings so you can move on in a more constructive way, learn from your experience and let it go. It doesn’t mean never say should, but just observe how often you do say it and try to express sometimes in other words that say what you mean and have a little more positive feeling. If it’s procrastination, saying and or feeling “I should do this” can cause you to feel pressured and keep putting it off even longer. Instead, tell yourself with feeling, “I can do this”, or “I will do this”, and notice how much better you feel about doing it.  Become more aware and notice how many times you say “I should”.  Then stop shoulding on yourself! 

Written by Sonia Star 3-28-23

Copyright © 2023
You have permission to use and share this copyrighted material providing you give proper credit to the author and do not change it or charge for it. Thank you